Kahwin?!

hmm..cliche je title and entry kali ni but whutever~ it's jz something that come across my mind. When ppl said abt kawen..ape yg terlintas kat kotak fikiran u olz? As for me, pop up dlm kepala hotakku ialah duit hantaran and ke'relevan'an adat..




Well bukan nak cakap now zaman modern so tak payah ikut adat, but sejauh mana relevannyer adat tu? Me tringat of pepatah melayu ' biar mati anak, jgn mati adat'..hmm..ternyata kita amat mementingkan adat.



Since im getting married, and a budget cut punyer soon to be pengantin..things like adat nih mmg memeningkan kepala otak and so is the hantaran..lets start dgn hantaran ok..




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HANTARAN

When i first think of marriage or memula start ade plan nak kawen the 1st question..brape hantaran nak letak? or some thing like..brape hantaran ? some of the answers are :

1. degree level = RM 10k +pandai masak+blh drive+ade keta sendiri =~RM 15k (mak datuk!!! giler pricey ladies skarang nih)
2. Standard skang = RM 10k ..(anak makcik limah yg kerja kilang tu pun RM 8-9k, at least anak aku ade lah pelajaran skit...versi org² tua)
3. Ala..dia kan anak org kaya stakat RM 11-15k tu ape lah sgt..(pergh..tp kalo anak org yg tak berape kaya dpt murah ke? mistilah tak jugak..jwpn nyer akan berbalik ke yg no.2 tu..jd in the end misti that range jugak..kopak!!)
4. Ikutlah kemampuan pihak laki berape..kami tak kisah..kami terima je..(yg ok skit lah kot..tp berape kerat lah sgt yg mcm nih)

ok that are the answers..pihak laki misti geleng kepala je pikirkan nih..tp mau tak mau usaha jugak lah. Kerja keras!! Simpan duit..cut cost smua..mmg jimat abess! Pastu kdg² ade lah yg share dgn bakal isteri..ade jugak yg mak ayah dh pesan jgn nak share² ye..ade jugak yg non-negotiable..pergh..wut more can i say lah..when come to think of it, giler byk nak spend utk kawen ni..no wonder ramai yg kdg² choose tak mau kawen and tu yg byk gejala sosial skang ni..pregnant tak ketahuan hala smua..but can this be the reason..of course tak..and smua akan back to basic balik..pegangan agama kita..takut kita kepada ALLAH..Simple basic thing..from there kita tau jln mana..always ade pegangan hidup..ok cut it out..back to the point..


katakan lah hantaran telah ditetapkan..versi yg tinggi hantaran nyer, org akan kata..

1. oklah tu..skang punya rate mmg mcm tu
2. wah² mcm artis..
3. Oooo..kawen anak dato', tan sri, menteri..patutlah..
4. anak dia ade grad mana? kerja ape? oo..patutlah (bg yg kerja tinggi.. bg yg tak..mak bapak dia mcm nak jual anak je..)

bg hantaran nyer yg tak sama standard sekarang nih..org akan kata..

1. huh?! RM xxK jer? Eh skang punya rate mana ade org letak mcm tu dh..(ade!! that family lah yg letak! y must nak kena sama dgn org lain..hehe..bias tak i?)
2. Eh kedekutnyer pihak laki tu..ni kat bandar bukan kat kg²..even kat kg pun dh tak letak dh ni..
3. skit nyer..misti ade apape tu ( versi org kepoh² yg selalu nak ngata org je..kan mmg ade hobi org mcm tu..i bet misti ade pny yg ckp mcm nih..hehe)

see..berape pun yg kita letak..ade je org akan kata..kenape kita asyik nak pedulik ape org nak kata? Nape perlu ade standard rate? This is not a business ok!! Be reasonable..dorg yg nak kawen ni bgs..kita harus galakkan..considerate lah sket..mamat tuh br nak start idup..dh nak kena hutang sana sini gara² nak kawen..that's not the way!!..Mcm tu smp bile nak dpt financial freedom? Dah beranak pinak, hutang kawen tak abess lagi..

hantaran ni pun part of adat kan? relevankah ia? ok kalo nak ikut adat nih..tp..harus lah being considerate sket..ingt senang ke nak cr duit? Duit mmg blh di cari peeps..tp bagai nak mati lah nak cr duit nih..adoi..oleh itu jgn membazir! Inilah dia org kita..itu baru hantaran..'the surface' je.. Tak nak lah go deeper, u olz pikir lah sendiri!! Belom masuk majlis nak grand², kalo boley nak 3 hari 3 malam agaknyer..aih~pening..



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Now lets go part adat pulak..





ADAT

1st skali yg nak ckp psl brg hantaran.. Ok lah fine wit me if brg hantaran tu nak grande..at least brg tu u ols jugak nak pakai..kalo selama nih belum pernah pakai brg yg giler branded..time kawen lah nak merasa..ok di ampun kan..tp..harus di ingat jugak..jgn kerana nak merasa tu hang pa p bergolok gadai abih semua..tak perlu..for me brg hantaran tu biar 1 je yg betul² u all nak...say a watch..yg lain tu tak pyh berabis sgt..or bg yg berduit tak kisah lah tu..afterall brg hantaran is jz a symbol hadiah lelaki bg pd perempuan..and vice versa..yg jd issue adat nih..BERAPE DULANG???! adoi pening i pikirkan konsep dulang nih! kalo laki bg 5 perempuan kena kasik extra 2 dulang..ape kah relevannyer di situ? (garu kepala kawan²).. tu br issue berape dulang..pastu issue brg yg kena kasik tuh..adoi..i know..i know ikut adat kena kasik quran lah sejadah,telekung..symbolic lah kan..yup agree²..maybe sape² yg nak unsur² symbolic nih ok lah..but for me..ke'relevan'an tu yg penting..say u dh ade dh tu..beli lah yg tak de n jdkan hantaran..kan tak mbazir.. ok..maybe some of u dh tak kisah abt the symbolic² version of brg hantaran..ok..so brg dh beli dh yg nak..then lepas tu.."eh hantaran kena ade sireh junjung..ade manisan.." adoi..sireh tu takde sape nak mkn lg..kalo ade org tua² pun..takkan nak mkn semua daun nyer..u spend abt RM50 utk sireh junjung yg akan di buang jugak..duit tuh babe!! tak syg ke? kalo org merokok spend smp RM50 mrh..kata bakar duit..sama lah konsepnyer..yg ni buang duit..manisan tu forgiven lah skit..

ok still pd brg hantaran..this part is the gubahan part!!! O.M.G!!! pening..gubahan je dh beratus hengget..pening2..bygkan kalo 1 dulang cost u minimum RM40 lah kan..sila lah multiply kan dgn jumlah dulang kamu..haaa..berape? n the cost tu kita spend utk kita rip it off jugak later.. kalo mcm tu tak pyh ade hantaran..mcm perkahwinan kedua erra fazira tuh..ok je for me..tak pun buat 1 dulang je..(the main thing or present buat si isteri) ok jugak wut..ade je hantaran..again..adat yg memainkan peranan..



Main thing kat sini is not that i go against adat..tp relevan kah lagi adat tu zaman sekarang..
Fikir ek..ni my point of view je lah..masuk je Universiti, kita dh berhutang dgn PTPTN!! Ok for U lain,study fees mmg mhl..jd perlulah..as sedia maklum utk budak UiTM ni the fees murah..so byk lah lebey..ade guna betul² utk belajar..ade guna utk kemewahan hidup di U (ehehe..i pun ada apart of it) later jgn complain time nak byr ek..reti pjm tak reti byr..(me reminding myself jugak..now dh tau bertapa ssh nyer cr duit kan? learn the lesson the hard way)..ehehe..but hutang still hutang..not complaining nak byr..i know where i stand ok..

Then..dpt kerja bukan nyer terus² gaji besar..expenses mula kena tanggung sendiri..i think parents pun kena paham lah jugak sket the situation nowadays..yup..things can be looked from byk angle..and of course i tau kita tak blh blame adat..i know that..jz dat my point kat sini, depends on situation masing²..adekah ini begitu penting? Yup for yg berduit y not..celebrate the day se'merrier' mungkin..tp for yg not that berduit, haruskah lagi kita mengikut adat² ini..boley je nak ikut adat as long as kita tak membazir..smua pun harus lah bersederhana..dont push it if betul kita tak de duit..

yg paling penting is not the ceremony..it's life after tuh..kalo idup dikelilingi hutang..ape kes nyer..kita buat ikut kemampuan..



to those yg nk kawen, plan urself..plan ur financial smua..jgn pinjam 'ah-long' ok..no gud²..jgn buat loan kat bank jugak..(bank pun mcm ah long jugak dh..dgn interest yg tinggi)hehehe..than again..it's just my view..Tak de related dgn sape² and tak de nak condemn sape²..




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wish me luck as my big day is coming soon..

For you..you know who you are

This post..kali ni pny is especially dedicated to my friend (u know who u are). Dalam life ni mmg slalu kita rs tak adil, mmg selalu kita rs kita ni tak bertuah, mmg slalu kita rs like 'if only...' Everything pun if only ini if only itu. Jarang skali kita pay our thankful to ALLAH. Jarang skali kita mensyukuri segala senang n susah yg DIA beri kepada kita.

I always remind myself that segala yg kesusahan yg kita lalui is for a better future. Selalu ingt bahawasanyer DIA takkan beri kesusahan yg kita tak tertanggung dan ingat jugak bahawasanyer DIA menyayangi kita dgn memberikan dugaan² demikian..kenapa sayang? kerana bile kita balik kepada NYA, dijanjikan satu balasan yg baik di kemudian hari.

Remember that u r never alone as HE is always be with u. Just pray for your safety and health. Lift up your spirit. I know u can do it..It's all in your head..we r what we think we are..

Here's a song yg i think boley membakar skit semangat kita..Old song tp boley kata berkesan jugak ape..Remember that u always have me to support u. What friends are for aite kalo tak membantu..Baik jgn kawan kalo tak bg faedah..hehehe..

Take care and please jgn sedey²..happy lah skit..well, y not u try n sing this song sekuat hati dlm toilet ke..let it go..let go all ur misery..scream it out..cry it out loud..spill it over somebody else's shoulder (my shoulder pun boley ok)..lift up ur energy, spirit, aura wut so ever yg they call..cheer up ok..

Ready to sing?

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Ok lets go together k.. On 3

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Jika kau fikirkan kau boleh
Kau hampir boleh melakukan
Jika kau fikirkan ragu²
Usahamu tidak menentu

Jika kau fikirkan kekalahan (kekalahan)
Kau hampiri kegagalan
Jika kau fikirkan kemenangan
Kau hampiri kejayaan

Engkau lah apa kau fikirkan
Terkandung dalam pemikiran
Kau fikir boleh melakukan
FIKIRKAN BOLEH

Percaya apa kau lakukan
Tabah apa kau usahakan
Bertindak atas kemampuan
ENGKAU BOLEH!!


Take care dear..

~ A.L.E.R.T~

Looking at skarang pny situation/condition, penyakit H1N1 smakin parah..Ape precautions steps yg dh kita amik? Seriously, this desease is more dangerous than u think..a very genius virus which it probably be hiding in your body..sape tau.. please take this alert serious you peeps..Ramai dh terkorban due to this. Hanya virus flu aje blh take someone's life away..AGAIN..BE SERIOUS to condition skarang..MASK on!!

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ok this was taken from various email yg diterima regarding prevention or precautions steps yg blh di ambil dlm keadaan kita skang ni..Maybe some of you dh ade dpt..but saje utk share dgn smua..maybe ade yg blom dpt..

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DOA DARI USTADZ SYAMSOL

AllahhummaJanibnaMinalwabakWalbalaq

Ya Allah jauhkanlah kami dari wabak penyakit dan ujianmu.

Baca selalu, setiap masa.

Disertakan dengan usaha.

EAT MINIMUM 6 GREEN APPLES A DAY AND FRESH ORANGE JUICE
for those with sore throat please blend the apples and keep on taking till your fever disappear and yr symtoms are gone....

I cannot explain it but the child in Shah Alam was ok too after taking this tip....

ALHAMDULILLAH...my staff's son was given the apple juice for the whole day on Monday/Tuesday and dengan kuasa ALLAH he was out of the fever yesterday Wednesday....she called me and was crying on the phone to say that her son was out of ICU and was able to eat normally...all these happened within just 4 days today (thursday 6 august)...

This is just to share with my fellow sisters and brothers and hope this small info could assist others as well, INSYA'ALLAH!!!!!!!!!! No harm in trying and dengan kuasa ALLAH anything can happen!!!!

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Well, mcm kata pepatah..an apple a day keeps the doctor away..hehehe..

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ok peeps, stay healthy..kita nak menyambut ramadhan dh ni..

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take care aite..

Akibat shopping mode

Referring to my post earlier, yg kununnyer nak bli long cardigan yg so called the IN THINGY..(in ker? huhuhu).. Setelah puas mencari n meng-hop n walk from 1 blog to another blog, i stopped at this. I said, this is it..so gonna buy it before it's too late lagi. FYI, im not the type yg sgt rajin nak berjalan n mencari from 1 store to another store..SGT penat! but of course satisfying..hehehe Yes, online shopping u tak dpt satisfaction on touching n trying which penting jugak for me. Cuma the 1 thing yg best about online shopping ni u tak perlu nak jln² n everything ade kat depan mata..NO HUSTLE but it depends jugak. I jz bought something yg i rs it's safe to buy n suits me je anyway pun..n make sure it's much much murah from store luar..hehehe..everything pun haruslah VALUE FOR MONEY ok! HARUS!!!

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And now..presenting

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The lebey kurang the 1 yg i nak

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tadaaaaaaa...

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from here

i bought it in red..hehehe..belasah je kaler ape beli..tak pedulik pun senang nak match ke tak yg penting it matches my desire..hehehe..Tak kisah lah 'in' ke tak yg penting u feel comfortable in it aite? tak kisah jugak if people dont like what u wear. Pegilah mam kan kalo tak ske..it's not derang yg bought you those..jd persetankan..Ive been told some tips abt berfesyen nih selain dr rs chantik..u must be confident in wut u wear.. definitely aura tuh akan naik..ive tried..it works!!try lah..

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Gudluck peepz..

Suddenly..

Haih~..this is wut happens biler the shopping mode is on. Almost everything yg terjah kat kepala n tertumpu oleh mata ini, smua nyer rs nak di beli. Inilah wanita dan 9 akal nafsu 1 nafsu akal nyer (betul kan..? if tersilap correct me plz) - edited >>thanx for correcting me!.
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As im browsing through my fren's blog n fb..and since terasa nak membeli..i pun layan² lah online shops nih smua. While browsing n scrolling
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n scrolling lg..

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keep on scrolling

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ttbe je mata ter-stop right at this elegant cardigan! Pastu dgn pantas impuls mhantar isyarat ke otak..

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credit to awanboutique

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'cantik-harus-beli!!'

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trus lah meng-contact sang kawan. No surprise lah kan since this type of cardigan is the IN THING tatkala ini..maka jawabnyer kehabisan stok.
H.A.M.P.A

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Well it's ok..maybe the reason all these happens sbb tak mo i spend my money (eceh, nak sedapkan hati sendiri je nih)..Muka dgn an inch thick ni mintak lah agar di repeat order nyer. It's kinda hard nak mencari now cz masa sgt mencemburui i. Jd the option now is to wait for the order to come in lg lah. And im not a fan of waiting nih. Sedia maklum lah cik kak,sape soh lmbat order (was talking to myself). Harap² the stock will be coming in soon.

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At the mean time..i'll keep on searching..this time from store to store plak..

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You can also soothe your eyes kat these stores. Mana tau ade yg terbekenan kat hati like me..blh lah trus meng-order.
But beware of the online shopping addiction..huhuhu..

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awanboutique

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D'styloboutique

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Happy shopping peepz