Surviving the office #1

I'll continue the iftaar outing entry later as i got lots of things in mind and lots of things happening lately. It's a stressful week that I wish this is only happening in my head. Unfortunately it's not!! Ugh! As im posting this, i still dispised them (who are really acting like sh*t) and pissed off. I think I want to keep it that way forever as they are not worth it. They the one who acted like your friend in the 1st place then stabbed u at the back when they want. Oh well, I believe in what you give you get back. I hope 1 day they'll got whatever they've done straight in their faces. 

I know that where ever place that called office is more or less the same but the 1 I'm in is the most terrible place I've been. Being regreted working here, I pull myself back together after being torn apart. Sometimes I feel like I'm in a movie or something. As much as i want to tell u what happen here, I have to hold back. It's not the time yet. I'll tell u, no worries. Wait for it..

For the time being, i want to share 1 email that i received on surviving the office. I think it's a good reading material. Enjoy reading ok. 

Know thy enemy? Author pens guide to surviving the office

By Miral Fahmy Miral Fahmy

SINGAPORE (Reuters Life!) – If your office feels like a warzone some days, a book identifying all those colleagues and bosses you've been tempted to battle should help you survive -- through laughter, and cutting back on e-mails.

 

Michael Stanford describes his recently published book, "Inhuman Resources: A guide to the psychos, misfits and criminally incompetent in every office," as a humorous self-help guide to the annoying personalities that populate offices, with the aim of making sure good manners rule supreme.

 

Examples include the "I'm not confused, I'm just drunk" person, the "I'm disappointed in you" person, the "let's have a meeting before the meeting" colleague, the "I'm so sick but I'm too important to go home" worker and the "I need to get into the lift before you can get out" person.

 

"No matter where you work, in which country or industry, people can identify with this book," Stanford, a 41-year-old Australian who worked in various offices, told Reuters.

"Many of these people drove me crazy, but they also made me laugh and cringe, because I could see myself in some of them. Stress has driven us all to do things we later regret."

The book was inspired by a video conference call Stanford was holding with an overseas client, who all of a sudden got up and left the room, never to return.

 

"That was 10 years ago. He must have gotten a phone call from someone more important and just didn't think we were worth his time. My boss told me to carry on speaking, which I did, to an empty room," Stanford said.

 

Stanford started out in the workforce as a glue salesman -- he quips most of his colleagues were too stoned to be a threat -- before moving on to a range of industries including retail, hospitality, journalism, advertising and marketing, mainly in Australia. He now avoids offices, and works out of cafes.

 

The global financial crisis helped create more characters for his book, including the "It wasn't me, it was the GFC" employees who blame all bad results on the downturn, not their performance.

 

Stanford said the dire economic straits will only increase bad behavior in the workplace, as employees are put under even more pressure due to the tight resources.

 

He warned, however, that managers and human resources officers must put an end to it before it becomes damaging.

 

"Stress levels nowadays are very high and the workplace is so competitive -- that is destructive, " Stanford said. "Because of the stiff competition, bad behavior is often condoned or accepted or even rewarded and that should never be the case."

And the solution to most of those workplace nightmares?

 

In addition to highlighting the importance of simple, good manners, companies should slow the pace and stop inter-office e-mail to get people talking face-to-face, Stanford says.

"E-mails and Blackberries are genius devices, but when you get to the point when people feel they have to respond to everything, all the time, you lose those precious minutes of thinking that you get when you actually get up from your seat and walk over to the other person to talk. Those calming minutes," he said.

 

"Also, employers would get much more out of their employee if they sometimes let them sleep over ideas."

 

And no matter how happy beating up that offensive colleague will make you feel, don't do it, he said.

 

(Editing by Tomasz Janowski)


Hope this article helps.

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Iftar outing ::part 1::

It was an unplanned iftar outing actually. last minute decision but turn out not bad. we r undecided whether to go or not to go. my better half won free tix to a premier screening of a movie - GAMER. oh well, i made up the decision to go for it since i got 1 most frustrating news. oh man i was so down! i lost hope! i felt like giving up.. i did actually give up. lets not get there. it's a mood spoiler thing.

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well, we stroll up n down the mall looking for a place to break-fast. got a few with tempting menus but then since the place is quite far from the cineplex, we had to choose somewhere nearer.
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plus it's the cheapest package for an iftar as we dont eat much pun. we'll continue eat usually after terawih. the package comes together with these..
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tamar

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air sirap.

mmg thirsty gile hari tu, tgk this sweaty sirap pun nmpk mcm tersangat lah sedapnyer.

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ok lah kot utk small portion eater. kalo selera besar tak suggest lah because buffet dia tak lah grand pun. but the taste mmg not bad.

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what more can i say

it is obvious that people dont like you..

what can you do?

what can you say? 

- they dont like u n definitely they wont listen to u.

obviously they want u out..

what more can you do?

- pack your things and get the hell out of there. what's the point of waiting? 

working late = a hardworking staff?? ist it??

- or it is actually because u r inefficient?

finish up ur task within dateline = u 1 lazy ass staff who go home on time..

or is it u r actually 1 god damn good staff an efficient 1?

no point of fighting back, no point of arguing.

what more can you say?

QUEST

Salam kamu semua..

hmm..actually i'm in the middle of completing my quest of writing an autobiographical essay. my oh my..suddenly i got kinda blank. what shud i tell about myself? ape yg menariknyer my life? darn.. nak tulis blog pun ilham nyer dtg once a while jer. hadoi..

what can i say..a quest need to be completed..i dont want my susah-payah-perah-otak-pikir to be wasted just like that.. harus kuat kan semangat! Bersemangat waja terus berusaha..impian kan menjadi nyata..hahaha

chaiyok!

My Guilty Pleasure

Salam..

Harlow peeps..

Ah~ what a long weekend i had. BEST!! Lama tak cuti panjang camtu, tho sbnrnyer bukanlah bercuti sgt. Me'nyettle' kan kerja yang tak leh di buat pada hujung minggu. Terpaksa lah amik cuti. Apo nak buek..

Disamping my so called cuti tu, ade lah jugak pergi cuci2 mata. Saje je tgk²..hehehe..(pdhal dlm otak ni dh bersusun list brg ape yg di target next..hehehe)..I was at Sunway Pyramid actually when suddenly i remembered that i was craving for donuts tersedap di Malaysia (for me lah..for others maybe,maybe not..)..ikut taste memasing lah ek..Since mmg lama giler tak pergi situ,byk jugak new shops. To be exact, restaurants. There're byk kedai mkn yg baru²..hmm..at least new for me. Will get back to u on that.

Dah lah bulan puasa, tgk kedai mknan yg beraneka nih,adoi tercabar jugak iman but takpe..just list it down and kita p makan biler ade kesempatan k. So many to try next nih. Yup, food and anything related to it is definitely my guilty pleasure. I can spend hours looking at those fantastic food craft and owh..add another 1 in the list chocolates! Sape yg tak ske chocolates kot kan? I'm kinda fussy dlm memilih chocolate..chocolate murah tak nak layan..(gedix kan)..paling teruk pun layan cadbury lah..as time goes by, dah pandai pegang duit..taste pun smakin mengikut kadar duit yg ade..heheh..

ok enuf dgn chocolate. i went there (Sunway Pyramid) actually just to have these....

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~mouth watering donuts~

yup..this is all my fav toppings!

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and these donuts are from

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yeap..JCO Donuts!

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Aaaah~ best betul.

Donuts is my fav! As i was strolling down the mall..ttbe ternmpk ini..

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it's opening soon!! I heard that this donuts lg super best dr jco's..ok once open i'll definitely drop by utk merasa kenikmatan donuts itu..oh donuts..

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So what's your guilty pleasure?

into donuts like me?

dh taste the krispy kreme's donuts? sedap tak? betul ke lagi sedap dr jco?

cant wait!~

MERDEKA!!!

 Bendera Malaysia

in just a couple of days je lagi kita akan menyambut Hari Kemerdekaan Malaysia yg ke 52. wow..i totally appreciate the peace that we had. merdeka always reminds me of semangat patriotik yg perlu ade dalam setiap warga malaysia. i remember dulu2 semangat nak tgk perbarisan on the 31st august morning tuh.. sanggup bangun awal just to see the parade. the best part of the parade is always the formation part where ramai² akan form a logo for that year independence day.. best! my sister was once involved with it..sgt impress dgn semangat dia. dorang yg terlibat akan practice everyday for about sebulan jugak kalo tak silap sampai hitam lah muka tu akibat sunburn. tu smua demi malaysia.. kagum²!

not only the perbarisan, but masuk je bulan august semua pun dh tau masing² punya part to kibarkan JALUR GEMILANG. kata bulan kemerdekaan. My family pun tak terkecuali untuk mengibarkan kan JALUR GEMILANG kat depan rumah. pastu semangat kemerdekaan tu di tanam lagi dengan iklan² television yg menyentuh perasaan, membakar semangat perpaduan serta patriotik tuh smua. we surely waited for those ad yg mmg sarat dgn message² tertentu. mmg dh jd trademark kan bile masuk je bulan august nih.

tapi lately ni..kurang sparks dia. even kat tv the ad pun tak se'gah' dulu. makin lemau pulak. kempen² kibarkan JALUR GEMILANG pun kurang. macam tak de sambutan pulak. kalau dulu, merata² bendera malaysia, tp sekarang mcm kurang. mmg betul tema merdeka tahun ni 1 MALAYSIA and merata² kempen about tu. i think kempen kibarkan JALUR GEMILANG pun misti lah jalan jugak.hmm..kurang 'uummphh' lah tahun nih. slow aje..kadang² macam sedih jugak tp ape nak buat.. jd i as a malaysian, masih lagi bersemangat nak menyambut hari merdeka walaupun abit slow tahun ni..(even the company yg i work ni pun takde semangat kemerdekaan..apedaaa..tak memainkan peranan betul dorg ni..teruk!) who to blame? diri sendiri lah..i think i should voice up..tp, sapelah daku di sini..dorg 'boh' layan je. takkan nak syok sendiri pulak..

ok lah..demi menunjukkan semangat cintakan negara, entry kali ini adelah untuk MALAYSIA ku tercinta.

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SELAMAT MENYAMBUT HARI KEMERDEKAAN KE 52!!!

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MERDEKA

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1 MALAYSIA Y'ALL!!

Sebagai tanda saya menyambut Hari Kemerdekaan ini..inilah dia JALUR GEMILANG yg di kibarkan di depan rumah ku!

Hypocrisy

Hey there! How's your Ramadhan going? Still standing? I surely hope so.

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Well, after finishing ( not done yet actually. i need a break. kepala otakku tersangkut dh) my work, i was bloghopping for a while. you know, jz freshen up my brain for a moment dek kerana tak dpt memerah otak lagi utk meneruskan kerja. tak lah lama pun, cz i ter'stopped' at this blog. memula mcm not into it, but since i jz need to look at something different, i take a tour. after reading a few entries, i found myself touched by what the blogger had post. somehow it makes me think of something that ive never ever thought about. i think that's 1 of the good thing reading blogs aite? i like the blogger's positive vibes and never ever use a nasty word. i like the idea of not using blogs to let out the pain, anger or smacking others behind their back. in fact the blogger try to express it the positive way.

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that's nice isnt it? that's the power of being honest or being who we are betul tak? sometimes we blogs bukan untuk meraih simpati (depends on tujuan masing2 utk berblogging). as for me i jz nak share my thoughts to the anyone out there who happens to stopped at this blog, to get oppinion lain. nanti tak lah kita rasa yg kita selalu betul. that's all.

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im jz being me where ever i go. is it wrong for not talking to people who i dont trust to be a good friend? i mean i do talk, only when it come to something important. other than that, i just keep quiet. being an anti-social person "here" (the place where got the people i dont trust to be a good friend). not just good friend but i dont trust them as a friend either. is that bad? the world need hypocrisy is it? pretending? in my situation, i think im avoiding myself from talking behind their back. this situation turns out not so good in terms of mengeratkan sillaturrahim, but i manage not hearing anything that menyakitkan hati. am i actually running from my problem? do i need to pretend to like them where the fact is i dont. im like invinsible "here".

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the thing is i like it this way. where i dont care about them and they dont care about me. it is like we never met, dont know each other and they dont exist! yeap it works for me. im no longer feel offended by what ever it is their doing. then i was told that i shouldnt do what i do-being myself. i was told to pretend that nothing bad happens between us, being professional. so, being quiet is not professional? talks to only important stuff is not pro enough? ive put the misery out of my head and what ive been through makes me becareful of what i say n do. so ist it wrong being me-avoiding myself from being hurt lg?

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i must say there's good side and not that good side of hypocrisy. i bet everyone pun a hypocrit including me cz hypocrisy is about pretending aite? we do need it sometimes but not all the time. in my case i choose not to pretend in this situation cz i dont want to. it'll only lead to a lot more pretending and im getting tired living in those lies. from my finding, yes! truth does hurt but at least we know the truth and do u like to be lied all the time? hmm...

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i choose the cold hard truth rather than being lied. which side are you? the hard truth or the hypocrisy which tells u what u want to hear?

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Keghairahan Menyambut Ramadhan

Ahlan Wasahlan Ya Ramadhan!!

Sebelum meneruskan entry ini, rasanya masih belum terlewat untuk saya mengucapkan Selamat Menyambut Ramadhan Al-Mubarak kepada readers blog ini (walaupun mungkin tak ramai.. ^_^). Mudah-mudahan Ramadhan kali ini di peroleh berkat kepada saudara saudari sekalian..


Ececeh..sekali sekala ber'formal..apesalahnyer kan?


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Entry kali ini mengesahkan keghairahan para muslimin n muslimat kita yang menyambut kedatangan Ramadhan. Seperti biasalah kan, setelah di umumkan oleh Penyimpan Mohor Besar Raja-Raja akan tarikh umat Islam di Malaysia menyambut Ramadhan, umat Islam akan menunaikan solat sunat Tarawih pd malam sebelum mula berpuasa keesokkannyer.


As for me, excited nyer nak sambut Ramadhan ni..i pun amik keputusan utk balik awal dr kerja full time n part-time job i for that day. I guessed org lain pun sama cz i stucked in traffic for nearly 2 hours! Dalam Shah Alam je tuh ok?! 2 hours! Fuh, dlm hati mmg terasa sgt tension tp nekad lah dlm hati, sempena nak sambut Ramadhan ni..tingkatkan lah kesabaran sikit.



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Enuf with the traffic, i've decided utk terus shoot ke masjid lah since it was nearly time for Isya'..bergegas lah for i would not want to miss my maghrib also. (darn that traffic jammed!!). Sesampai je di masjid, terkejut jugak lah dgn sambutan meriah muslimin n muslimat nak nak menyambut bulan yg penuh mulia ini. Terasa mcm dh nak raya. Excited nyer i time tuh. First time ok pi Tarawih sorg2! Direct from office pulak tuh..ternyata terlalu excited nih..hehehe..


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After Maghrib, Isya' and Tarawih all together berjemaah, i pun beransur lah untuk balik. Take Note that i cuma buat 8 je for i terasa sgt lah tired lepas tu. Dinner pun belom lg, mandi apetah lagi. Melekit dh rsnyer badan ku ini, tapi i felt so so happy cz berjaya jugak join kemeriahan nak menyambut Ramadhan AlMubarak ini.





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My happiness itu tak lama! As i walk to my car..dgn harapan dpt balik awal n makan n berehat or even tido awal utk bangun sahur esok..my car kena BLOCKED dgn this bloody idiot's car (a black MYVI)..Im so PALANG any MYVI sekarang.. You know what, he (owh yes, the owner is a HE!) only kluar after 20..gud for him lah buat penuh..but my hati nih dh berasap² dah tahan marah. Why i called him bloody idiot? Cz HE IS! Damned I'm so mad at him! Hey come on lah ok, maybe he's late for tarawih..fine nak block..but be responsible lah..leave in your phone number or jgn tarik handbreak tu so that we can push ur car aside or terus tolak masuk tasik!! FYI,he blocked 2cars..mine and sorg pakcik tu..Lucky that pakcik buat 20 je, no need to wait lama giler nak mati mcm i. Bygkan lps abis 8 tuh i'm waiting for him..tak berasap kepala? He only kluar after 20 yg betul² abis org bc doa smua and end up selawat ke atas nabi kita Nabi Muhammad S.A.W..antara yg paling lambat kluar. PERGH!!!!! Mmg kesabaran ku di uji.



I waited in anger..sgt..yang amat..TERLAMPAU MARAH!!! While i was waiting, ade lah gak try push dat car..tp dia tarik handbreak. Then akibat tersangat lah tak tahan marah..i toreh² dat car dgn batu, amik my streering lock (besi solid) hentak keta dia..pecah kan cermin keta dia, and lepaskan handbreak dia..Of course lah tak!!! Iwish i dpt do that but that is all in my head je. I tak sanggup ok..mana nak sampai hati. Tgkkan plate number WRE 1X4X....keta baru lg nih. Phm lah perasaan kalo keta baru ditoreh² kan, but who cares..the owner tak paham plak perasaan marah org lain yg mbuak² nih. In the end, i jz waited in my car n berfikir..DUGAAN nih..Fikir balik kesilapan lepas² maybe this is the payback. So i jz waited there n bermuhasabah diri. Calming myself down dgn fikirkan all the positive thoughts..ALHAMDULILLAH i manage to calm down. Then came the pakcik sebelah yg pon sama mcm i cuba menahan marah nyer i guessed.


Pakcik tuh tny lah dh berape lama tgu and i just smile n cakap "dr lepas 8 lg pcik..tak balik rumah pun lg nih..dr tempat kerja ke sini" ...that felt good..mcm let go the anger by sharing the frustration..Pakcik tuh bersama ahli keluarganya pun waited dgn penuh kesabaran..Then nmpk lah kelibat sorg mamat ni. Berambut panjang (diikat) n berkopiah..Tgk d whole family pakcik nih (yup quite ramai) tgh bersandar kat keta mamat ni sambil peluk tubuh. He came then unlocke his car (by alarm) nk bgtau tu keta dia lah..dgn muka yg mcm agak bersalah n tak tu ckp.."mintak maaf lah.." Then without further ado, terus pakcik tu kuarkan tazkirah skit while that time i'm in my car (pintu keta buka) but i cudnt hear much cz pakcik tu ckp dgn sgt berhemah.







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Pakcik tu brought that mamat in front of me while im sitting in my car dgn pintu yg terbuka tuh..he said " kamu mintak maaf kat kakak nih!!!!! dia tgu kamu dr lepas 8 lg td tau! Baru balik kerja..mintak maaf kat dia!!" i was like...WOW! Drama!! Mcm being in 1 of Yusoff Haslam's drama or something mcm tuh..My thoughts was blank for a few sec. Then i was like..this is my time..HAMBUR this guy habis habisan!!!! Amik steering lock tuh hentak skit kepala dia bg dia ingt! But then again..it was all in my head je..ALHAMDULILLAH ade kesabaran+i dah pun calm down ms tuh..All i said was "Bro, lenkali kalo nak parking tuh jgn lah menyusahkan org lain! (as calm as i can be)"..KAGUM!!!! hehehe.. "Kalo yer pun lambat..." tak sempat menghabiskan ayat ku..dipotong oleh pakcik tu yg mungkin sedang sedaya upaya melepaskan kemarahan nyer secara berhemah. TQ pakcik tolong bg tazkirah tuh kat mamat ni altho i rs kalo pakcik tuh sergah se'pound' dua would be lg bagus biar melekat dlm kepala hotak dia.


haa~ dat's how my excitement goes sempena nak menyambut bulan puasa nih..



How's ur story pulak? Anything like mine yg keretanya di blocked org lain yg sesungguhnyer mmglah tak bertanggungjawab..SGT INCONSIDERATE!!!?


Anyhow..Just nak wish you all HAPPY FASTING!!!


Felt relieved kan bile dh let it off your chest? Hmmm...



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Decision making

I was saying to myself "menyesal pulak tgk ad PENGAMBILAN PENGAJIAN PASCA SISWAZAH ni". It really spoiled my mood di pagi hari ini. Im not blaming anybody but myself. Gatal nak tgk sape suruh, kan sendiri yg stress.

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Actually, i was thinking to further my study ke peringkat yg seterusnyer but i have no confidence at all. Keep thinking that i'm not ready yet. Maybe..maybe i am not ready. The thing that makes me looking fwd to that is because biasalah, keadaan sekitar yg mendorong ke arah itu.



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I know that sekarang ni, setakat degree level tu nothing dh lah. It is not enough. Yup, noted! The thing is im not ready..yes, im not ready..but then the question "when are you ready?!" pop up..Ah SHOOT~ mengapa lah that question popped up. Is that question is actually a sign? (byklah sign kamu..)..And now im MISERABLE!


Ok lets try n sort things out 1 by 1.. AAAARRRGHHH!!!! what the **** am i talking about.. Sort things??!! I cannot even think straight right now, lagi nak sort things out. Might aswell i put things aside dulu and bile i dh able to think dgn waras, maybe i should think back about this.

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lama ok..it's a tough decision

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and after dh ok n boley think straight.. i come to this conclusion.. It doesnt satisfy me either, but i guess it is the best thing for now.

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Im not going to futher study yet, well at least not this year. The reason for not to take the next step is because i got lots of things lining up. I dont want money to be an issue, but it is a BIG ISSUE for me. For now je lah dulu kot..insyaALLAH lepas ni shoud be ok..i hope so. On top of it, i actually still having a vague image of my future. I want to focus on gaining as much experience in accounting field baru move on to the next step. I may do both at the same time but as for now, tak kot..I'm jz affraid that i couldnt juggle them. Maybe next year, afterall it's never to late to learn kan? Yang penting semangat nak belajar n memajukan diri tu.


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I can see where im heading to now and i must thank the ALMIGHTY for showing me a way (always keep faith in HIM)..Dengan izin NYA, maybe i'll further my study next year. Lets just pray for it to happen. When there's a will there's a way.. I know myself and pedulikkan ape org nak kata. My life, my decision aite? Of course perlukan moral support from family n frens jugak. I just need to work harder and pray harder..


Be strong yemma! Next year maybe..Do pray for the best for me jugak k..

Thank you ALLAH. Thank you friends. Thank you readers..(like i have many..hahahah)



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im so in ♥..

Ok..up untill today br i realize that i got crushed on jackets n slingbags!! OMG, mmg cudnt resist the temptation once my eyes dh berkenan..how²?



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The story goes when i was looking at the clothes kat dlm store tu..then ttbe my eyes caught this jacket kat this patung. At that time i was like, eh nice betul lah. Then, i looked for it, cari² di manakah terletaknyer that jacket? Takkan lah ade 1 tu je kan? The moment i rs mcm give up nak cr, then suddenly i saw ia bergantungan.. BYK lagi..hehehe.. Belek² the price, belek² the material, belek² itu ini then terlintas lah di kotak fikiran ku utk try it on. After it's a jacket,tak pyh ssh² queue kat fitting room. The moment i sarung....AHHH~ tak terkata perasaannyer (if u have passion on something, bygkan u r right in front of it and dgn perasaan HARUS DIBELI ini item)..That shoud do kot to describe my likey on that jacket. It may look plain/biasa je on org lain, but who cares wut others think..


BETUL TAK?!


Tak pe if org tak suke cz that'll make u one of a kind or dorg boley jugak kata u r a freak.

Akan tetapi, look at keadaan sekarang ni..nobody cares of wut u wear, how u wear it dh. I once was told that berfesyen is all abt self-confidence. No matter wut u wear, how u wear it, as long as u got confident n comfortable (haruslah!!)..i bet the msg sampai to ppl out there. sebagai contoh, u wear it like u r a diva..feel it n im totally sure that ppl will look at u the same..but of course (harus lah sekali lagi ditegaskan) berbekalkan self-esteem yg tinggi.


As for me, be true to yourself. U r wut u wear. Dont think of wut ppl might say, cz they'll say it whether u like it or not. U dont wear something to impress ppl aite?(wz talking abt the casual wear)..and if u do nak impress ppl, i must say done over do it. Petua ku, comfortable n confident..


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Without much ado, i present u the jacket that i fell in ♥ with..


tadaa...


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the 1 yg that gurl pakai ok..


definitely will go in my wishlist..I got a long one..hahaha


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u may be the lucky one!!

ok, i bloghopping here and there and ade some of them campaigning this..so i tot to try n have a look..no harm kan..then i started to think of, hey y not just give a shot kan? afterall we are showing our love to the country! (haha..ckp je lah sbnrnyer nak menang).. Hey i love my country jugak ok..there's no place like home.

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ok for u peeps out there, come and show your love to the country and who knows it's ur luck to win this IPHONE 3GS!!! (worth RM2,500 - tempting nyer!! bercita² to own it)

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It only took a few steps aje to win it..simple² one..

1. click on the ads kat sebelah tu the 1 stated 'i love malaysia'
2. fill in the form
3. copy it to ur wsite/homepage/blog
4. name ur referrer - me (shaiifaema [at] gmail [dot] com) - if u win,i'll win it too..sharing is caring darls..help me to help u win it..hehehe..ape yg penting kerjasama!!(credit to wonderpet)

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Ok..hope that u n i will win this and i must give credit to my referrer aisyahrozi (altho belom menang) utk join this campaign..


GOOD LUCK!! May the luck be on our side!!

Kahwin?!

hmm..cliche je title and entry kali ni but whutever~ it's jz something that come across my mind. When ppl said abt kawen..ape yg terlintas kat kotak fikiran u olz? As for me, pop up dlm kepala hotakku ialah duit hantaran and ke'relevan'an adat..




Well bukan nak cakap now zaman modern so tak payah ikut adat, but sejauh mana relevannyer adat tu? Me tringat of pepatah melayu ' biar mati anak, jgn mati adat'..hmm..ternyata kita amat mementingkan adat.



Since im getting married, and a budget cut punyer soon to be pengantin..things like adat nih mmg memeningkan kepala otak and so is the hantaran..lets start dgn hantaran ok..




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HANTARAN

When i first think of marriage or memula start ade plan nak kawen the 1st question..brape hantaran nak letak? or some thing like..brape hantaran ? some of the answers are :

1. degree level = RM 10k +pandai masak+blh drive+ade keta sendiri =~RM 15k (mak datuk!!! giler pricey ladies skarang nih)
2. Standard skang = RM 10k ..(anak makcik limah yg kerja kilang tu pun RM 8-9k, at least anak aku ade lah pelajaran skit...versi org² tua)
3. Ala..dia kan anak org kaya stakat RM 11-15k tu ape lah sgt..(pergh..tp kalo anak org yg tak berape kaya dpt murah ke? mistilah tak jugak..jwpn nyer akan berbalik ke yg no.2 tu..jd in the end misti that range jugak..kopak!!)
4. Ikutlah kemampuan pihak laki berape..kami tak kisah..kami terima je..(yg ok skit lah kot..tp berape kerat lah sgt yg mcm nih)

ok that are the answers..pihak laki misti geleng kepala je pikirkan nih..tp mau tak mau usaha jugak lah. Kerja keras!! Simpan duit..cut cost smua..mmg jimat abess! Pastu kdg² ade lah yg share dgn bakal isteri..ade jugak yg mak ayah dh pesan jgn nak share² ye..ade jugak yg non-negotiable..pergh..wut more can i say lah..when come to think of it, giler byk nak spend utk kawen ni..no wonder ramai yg kdg² choose tak mau kawen and tu yg byk gejala sosial skang ni..pregnant tak ketahuan hala smua..but can this be the reason..of course tak..and smua akan back to basic balik..pegangan agama kita..takut kita kepada ALLAH..Simple basic thing..from there kita tau jln mana..always ade pegangan hidup..ok cut it out..back to the point..


katakan lah hantaran telah ditetapkan..versi yg tinggi hantaran nyer, org akan kata..

1. oklah tu..skang punya rate mmg mcm tu
2. wah² mcm artis..
3. Oooo..kawen anak dato', tan sri, menteri..patutlah..
4. anak dia ade grad mana? kerja ape? oo..patutlah (bg yg kerja tinggi.. bg yg tak..mak bapak dia mcm nak jual anak je..)

bg hantaran nyer yg tak sama standard sekarang nih..org akan kata..

1. huh?! RM xxK jer? Eh skang punya rate mana ade org letak mcm tu dh..(ade!! that family lah yg letak! y must nak kena sama dgn org lain..hehe..bias tak i?)
2. Eh kedekutnyer pihak laki tu..ni kat bandar bukan kat kg²..even kat kg pun dh tak letak dh ni..
3. skit nyer..misti ade apape tu ( versi org kepoh² yg selalu nak ngata org je..kan mmg ade hobi org mcm tu..i bet misti ade pny yg ckp mcm nih..hehe)

see..berape pun yg kita letak..ade je org akan kata..kenape kita asyik nak pedulik ape org nak kata? Nape perlu ade standard rate? This is not a business ok!! Be reasonable..dorg yg nak kawen ni bgs..kita harus galakkan..considerate lah sket..mamat tuh br nak start idup..dh nak kena hutang sana sini gara² nak kawen..that's not the way!!..Mcm tu smp bile nak dpt financial freedom? Dah beranak pinak, hutang kawen tak abess lagi..

hantaran ni pun part of adat kan? relevankah ia? ok kalo nak ikut adat nih..tp..harus lah being considerate sket..ingt senang ke nak cr duit? Duit mmg blh di cari peeps..tp bagai nak mati lah nak cr duit nih..adoi..oleh itu jgn membazir! Inilah dia org kita..itu baru hantaran..'the surface' je.. Tak nak lah go deeper, u olz pikir lah sendiri!! Belom masuk majlis nak grand², kalo boley nak 3 hari 3 malam agaknyer..aih~pening..



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Now lets go part adat pulak..





ADAT

1st skali yg nak ckp psl brg hantaran.. Ok lah fine wit me if brg hantaran tu nak grande..at least brg tu u ols jugak nak pakai..kalo selama nih belum pernah pakai brg yg giler branded..time kawen lah nak merasa..ok di ampun kan..tp..harus di ingat jugak..jgn kerana nak merasa tu hang pa p bergolok gadai abih semua..tak perlu..for me brg hantaran tu biar 1 je yg betul² u all nak...say a watch..yg lain tu tak pyh berabis sgt..or bg yg berduit tak kisah lah tu..afterall brg hantaran is jz a symbol hadiah lelaki bg pd perempuan..and vice versa..yg jd issue adat nih..BERAPE DULANG???! adoi pening i pikirkan konsep dulang nih! kalo laki bg 5 perempuan kena kasik extra 2 dulang..ape kah relevannyer di situ? (garu kepala kawan²).. tu br issue berape dulang..pastu issue brg yg kena kasik tuh..adoi..i know..i know ikut adat kena kasik quran lah sejadah,telekung..symbolic lah kan..yup agree²..maybe sape² yg nak unsur² symbolic nih ok lah..but for me..ke'relevan'an tu yg penting..say u dh ade dh tu..beli lah yg tak de n jdkan hantaran..kan tak mbazir.. ok..maybe some of u dh tak kisah abt the symbolic² version of brg hantaran..ok..so brg dh beli dh yg nak..then lepas tu.."eh hantaran kena ade sireh junjung..ade manisan.." adoi..sireh tu takde sape nak mkn lg..kalo ade org tua² pun..takkan nak mkn semua daun nyer..u spend abt RM50 utk sireh junjung yg akan di buang jugak..duit tuh babe!! tak syg ke? kalo org merokok spend smp RM50 mrh..kata bakar duit..sama lah konsepnyer..yg ni buang duit..manisan tu forgiven lah skit..

ok still pd brg hantaran..this part is the gubahan part!!! O.M.G!!! pening..gubahan je dh beratus hengget..pening2..bygkan kalo 1 dulang cost u minimum RM40 lah kan..sila lah multiply kan dgn jumlah dulang kamu..haaa..berape? n the cost tu kita spend utk kita rip it off jugak later.. kalo mcm tu tak pyh ade hantaran..mcm perkahwinan kedua erra fazira tuh..ok je for me..tak pun buat 1 dulang je..(the main thing or present buat si isteri) ok jugak wut..ade je hantaran..again..adat yg memainkan peranan..



Main thing kat sini is not that i go against adat..tp relevan kah lagi adat tu zaman sekarang..
Fikir ek..ni my point of view je lah..masuk je Universiti, kita dh berhutang dgn PTPTN!! Ok for U lain,study fees mmg mhl..jd perlulah..as sedia maklum utk budak UiTM ni the fees murah..so byk lah lebey..ade guna betul² utk belajar..ade guna utk kemewahan hidup di U (ehehe..i pun ada apart of it) later jgn complain time nak byr ek..reti pjm tak reti byr..(me reminding myself jugak..now dh tau bertapa ssh nyer cr duit kan? learn the lesson the hard way)..ehehe..but hutang still hutang..not complaining nak byr..i know where i stand ok..

Then..dpt kerja bukan nyer terus² gaji besar..expenses mula kena tanggung sendiri..i think parents pun kena paham lah jugak sket the situation nowadays..yup..things can be looked from byk angle..and of course i tau kita tak blh blame adat..i know that..jz dat my point kat sini, depends on situation masing²..adekah ini begitu penting? Yup for yg berduit y not..celebrate the day se'merrier' mungkin..tp for yg not that berduit, haruskah lagi kita mengikut adat² ini..boley je nak ikut adat as long as kita tak membazir..smua pun harus lah bersederhana..dont push it if betul kita tak de duit..

yg paling penting is not the ceremony..it's life after tuh..kalo idup dikelilingi hutang..ape kes nyer..kita buat ikut kemampuan..



to those yg nk kawen, plan urself..plan ur financial smua..jgn pinjam 'ah-long' ok..no gud²..jgn buat loan kat bank jugak..(bank pun mcm ah long jugak dh..dgn interest yg tinggi)hehehe..than again..it's just my view..Tak de related dgn sape² and tak de nak condemn sape²..




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wish me luck as my big day is coming soon..

For you..you know who you are

This post..kali ni pny is especially dedicated to my friend (u know who u are). Dalam life ni mmg slalu kita rs tak adil, mmg selalu kita rs kita ni tak bertuah, mmg slalu kita rs like 'if only...' Everything pun if only ini if only itu. Jarang skali kita pay our thankful to ALLAH. Jarang skali kita mensyukuri segala senang n susah yg DIA beri kepada kita.

I always remind myself that segala yg kesusahan yg kita lalui is for a better future. Selalu ingt bahawasanyer DIA takkan beri kesusahan yg kita tak tertanggung dan ingat jugak bahawasanyer DIA menyayangi kita dgn memberikan dugaan² demikian..kenapa sayang? kerana bile kita balik kepada NYA, dijanjikan satu balasan yg baik di kemudian hari.

Remember that u r never alone as HE is always be with u. Just pray for your safety and health. Lift up your spirit. I know u can do it..It's all in your head..we r what we think we are..

Here's a song yg i think boley membakar skit semangat kita..Old song tp boley kata berkesan jugak ape..Remember that u always have me to support u. What friends are for aite kalo tak membantu..Baik jgn kawan kalo tak bg faedah..hehehe..

Take care and please jgn sedey²..happy lah skit..well, y not u try n sing this song sekuat hati dlm toilet ke..let it go..let go all ur misery..scream it out..cry it out loud..spill it over somebody else's shoulder (my shoulder pun boley ok)..lift up ur energy, spirit, aura wut so ever yg they call..cheer up ok..

Ready to sing?

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Jika kau fikirkan kau boleh
Kau hampir boleh melakukan
Jika kau fikirkan ragu²
Usahamu tidak menentu

Jika kau fikirkan kekalahan (kekalahan)
Kau hampiri kegagalan
Jika kau fikirkan kemenangan
Kau hampiri kejayaan

Engkau lah apa kau fikirkan
Terkandung dalam pemikiran
Kau fikir boleh melakukan
FIKIRKAN BOLEH

Percaya apa kau lakukan
Tabah apa kau usahakan
Bertindak atas kemampuan
ENGKAU BOLEH!!


Take care dear..

~ A.L.E.R.T~

Looking at skarang pny situation/condition, penyakit H1N1 smakin parah..Ape precautions steps yg dh kita amik? Seriously, this desease is more dangerous than u think..a very genius virus which it probably be hiding in your body..sape tau.. please take this alert serious you peeps..Ramai dh terkorban due to this. Hanya virus flu aje blh take someone's life away..AGAIN..BE SERIOUS to condition skarang..MASK on!!

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ok this was taken from various email yg diterima regarding prevention or precautions steps yg blh di ambil dlm keadaan kita skang ni..Maybe some of you dh ade dpt..but saje utk share dgn smua..maybe ade yg blom dpt..

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DOA DARI USTADZ SYAMSOL

AllahhummaJanibnaMinalwabakWalbalaq

Ya Allah jauhkanlah kami dari wabak penyakit dan ujianmu.

Baca selalu, setiap masa.

Disertakan dengan usaha.

EAT MINIMUM 6 GREEN APPLES A DAY AND FRESH ORANGE JUICE
for those with sore throat please blend the apples and keep on taking till your fever disappear and yr symtoms are gone....

I cannot explain it but the child in Shah Alam was ok too after taking this tip....

ALHAMDULILLAH...my staff's son was given the apple juice for the whole day on Monday/Tuesday and dengan kuasa ALLAH he was out of the fever yesterday Wednesday....she called me and was crying on the phone to say that her son was out of ICU and was able to eat normally...all these happened within just 4 days today (thursday 6 august)...

This is just to share with my fellow sisters and brothers and hope this small info could assist others as well, INSYA'ALLAH!!!!!!!!!! No harm in trying and dengan kuasa ALLAH anything can happen!!!!

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Well, mcm kata pepatah..an apple a day keeps the doctor away..hehehe..

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ok peeps, stay healthy..kita nak menyambut ramadhan dh ni..

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take care aite..

Akibat shopping mode

Referring to my post earlier, yg kununnyer nak bli long cardigan yg so called the IN THINGY..(in ker? huhuhu).. Setelah puas mencari n meng-hop n walk from 1 blog to another blog, i stopped at this. I said, this is it..so gonna buy it before it's too late lagi. FYI, im not the type yg sgt rajin nak berjalan n mencari from 1 store to another store..SGT penat! but of course satisfying..hehehe Yes, online shopping u tak dpt satisfaction on touching n trying which penting jugak for me. Cuma the 1 thing yg best about online shopping ni u tak perlu nak jln² n everything ade kat depan mata..NO HUSTLE but it depends jugak. I jz bought something yg i rs it's safe to buy n suits me je anyway pun..n make sure it's much much murah from store luar..hehehe..everything pun haruslah VALUE FOR MONEY ok! HARUS!!!

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And now..presenting

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The lebey kurang the 1 yg i nak

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tadaaaaaaa...

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from here

i bought it in red..hehehe..belasah je kaler ape beli..tak pedulik pun senang nak match ke tak yg penting it matches my desire..hehehe..Tak kisah lah 'in' ke tak yg penting u feel comfortable in it aite? tak kisah jugak if people dont like what u wear. Pegilah mam kan kalo tak ske..it's not derang yg bought you those..jd persetankan..Ive been told some tips abt berfesyen nih selain dr rs chantik..u must be confident in wut u wear.. definitely aura tuh akan naik..ive tried..it works!!try lah..

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Gudluck peepz..